Dearly beloved, we’re obtained here right now to complete this thing also known as⦠a period finale! Yes, it is real, the occurrence signifies the conclusion absolutely the smash hit that was S2 of
Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date?
And celebrate that finishing, whom preferable to seriously and talk about the joys and achievements of a lengthy distance crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You will accept Elise from life’s wonderful queer Christmas time rom-com that come completely last year,
Underneath The Christmas Tree
,
but around these areas, this lady has another title this is certainly nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, you heard that right, this sparkling twosome was birthed through the fantastic queer practice: the long distance crush.
But what would it be regarding long-distance crush that is very attractive to queers worldwide? Could it be the comparative scarcity of like-minded queers surrounding you? Perhaps the capability to flirt long-distance requires some of the stress down? The three folks enter all of it, AND Drew and Elise share some potentially as well adorable information about their union!
As well as there is a game title! This week, we make Drew play the game that merely got over Twitter and Tiktok for a couple fleeting weeks: “They may be a 10 but⦔ its a very good time, all over!
SHOW RECORDS
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Read Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
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+ View
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it still rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs are⦠certainly quite compelling!
+ may Shortz is in fact title for the NYT Crossword Editor!
*the much more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: and we got from the telephone, then we both hopped in the phone two mere seconds afterwards we’re like, “and so the edge is shut, we are lawfully not allowed to really get throughout the border.”
Christina
: What i’m saying is, leading among one of the best voice memos and or texts i obtained from Drew, I can’t keep in mind which type it was available in, it absolutely was similar, “we made this course of action and today the edges tend to be closed.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it had been an actual minute.
[theme tune plays]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And introducing
Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date?
Christina
:
Wait, So Is This A Date?
is actually an Autostraddle podcast brought to you by myself obtaining giggles, as well as the concern which on everybody’s mouth, wait, was actually this a date?
Drew
: we are at the conclusion of our very own second period, and I think we solved it, i do believe.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe i am just getting large finale electricity, like whenever comedies used to be in front of a studio audience, and every person would walk-in so there had been an hour of applause as it was like, it’s the finally, which is how I’m feeling. Though is obvious, no one features applauded myself however, hateful. Thanks, thanks a lot. Today I feel liked and used. Drew, who are you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about that part.
Christina
: Yeah, proper?
Drew:
Maybe period three I’ll have the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, I am an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. Guess what happens, In my opinion when we would another period i wish to have an enjoyable one I throw in right at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you wish to jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t any such thing now however.
Christina
: Okay, keep them wanting a lot more, In my opinion which is great.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: Im Christina Tucker, Im also a writer at Autostraddle, and also the net at-large. A podcaster, a gay Ebony lady, and somebody who’s feeling quite jazzy right here on this subject afternoon.
Drew
: Great, I’m really pleased that you’re jazzy and I also’m spicy, or perhaps I’m planning for the chance that at some point I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I’m not sure, the first 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spruce comes. Cool guide, females, she actually is solitary. Anyhow, i actually do have a-game for people playing on this subject hollowed day’s our very own finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: This is the traditional, and also by traditional I mean a casino game that annexed the internet and TikTok for two to three weeks, “They Truly Are a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: today Drew, i’ll put down some ground policies for you personally, because I’m sure you like a follow up question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: As I say they may be a 10, they truly are a 10 to you by any means that matters for you, that might be physically, which can be mentally, this is simply someone you really feel is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, fine, thanks a lot.
Christina
: I do have no circumstances for just what else you contained in this individual are carrying out in your online dating existence, you are simply probably need to go along with your gut and determine.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: we are going to place in which make that clear, here we get. They may be a 10, however they clap when the plane lands.
Drew
: i decided citizens were also remarkable with this particular, in which it is like they may be a 10 and that thing makes them go to a-two, come on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m planning to nevertheless give a fairly reasonable eight.
Christina
: Yeah, I think which is fair. I do believe eight could be the proper number of cringe removal for this small action. All right, this really is a fantastic start. Okay, they’re a nine nonetheless they never ever text you first.
Drew
: and I also can not ask follow through concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I can’t ask, well carry out they text me back when we text? I would say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting first ever before, which is harsh.
Drew
: ever before is strange.
Christina
: which is crude stuff. Fine, they’re a five nevertheless they drive one to every errand you’ve ever endured to perform.
Drew
: that is very nice, but i possibly could usually⦠If there are five, we’ll provide him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But I’m sure you love a solo jaunt in any event, you love an errand run.
Drew
:I mean today my personal girl Elise performed drive me to an errand, and that I had been extremely pleased, however if which was the thing she did we wouldn’t maintain a connection, which was only an added little great added bonus.
Christina
: i do believe that is reasonable.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: okay, they are a seven nevertheless they just pretend to read through work.
Drew
: See the element of that that bothers myself may be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we realized it will be.
Drew
: It isn’t really the perhaps not checking out it. If they failed to review could work it is like, I’m not that, I’d end up being a little, it really is like never ever? But it is great, I could conquer it. Even so they lay if you ask me about this is what’s weird in my experience, in order forshould go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, correct, proper. They might be a three even so they get access to the criterion closet.
Drew
: And carry out I get one go?
Christina
: and also you have accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i really could have a good affair with that six.
Christina
: i believe you might. It had been a three, but yeah, you’re knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what I’m claiming, i am knocking it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I like that. They truly are an eight but their buddies are directly.
Drew
: Okay, there was some discourse about any of it, because i believe there was a you want assist. I believe We possibly had been in the other area of most of this Autostraddle staff exactly who mentioned that truly okay to simply have straight friends. I would like to point out that really okay, it’s simply perhaps not the life span I lead. All direct pals, that will visit a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will must trust you on that one, i’d merely find it somewhat troubling, confusing.
Drew
: All direct friends?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are not used to queerness and are also planning to fulfill more queer individuals, which is different than if they are a recognised season queer who’s want, you-know-what? I love getting usually the one lesbian in my own friend group of direct folks.
Christina
: Yeah, I would have the in an identical way when it had been a Black one who was like, “I don’t have any Black buddies,” I would wind up as, “What’s going on there?” Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a system sitcom, we can not have a token individual.
Christina
: You don’t need to function as the token, you should not do this to yourself. Fine, we’ve got three even more. They’ve been a seven even so they spend-all their own sparetime at the gym, continuously strength training up-and-down. I am not sure what people perform at the gym.
Drew
: All of their free time. I guess it all depends about what counts as sparetime. I’ll state a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump them down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: but that is okay. I assume it depends mostly in my situation, that we’m maybe not inquiring a take question, i am keeping five, but it is dependent in my opinion what counts as leisure time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: are we able to see movies collectively, or venture out to consume, is that leisure time? Is not work time free time, or perhaps is it simply like once we do not have alternative activities?
Christina
: I notice you, we listen to you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick with five.
Christina
: okay. They can be six, however their mom is sexier than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I am not sure to increase or down.
Christina
: i am aware, right?
Drew
: I don’t believe I could actually ever date some one for their⦠It is like basically’m maybe not interested in somebody in the first place, i am probably not going to be matchmaking them.
Christina
: Appropriate.
Drew
: I’m not probably going to be like, well, they were able to turn into their hot mom. In my opinion I would say that they truly are nevertheless a six, i am just planning to maybe not call them and that I’m gonna call their unique mom.
Christina
: Yeah, I believe like it’s as you remain equivalent, but possibly I go out to you slightly longer than i’d so as-
Drew
: That’s a great point.
Christina
: getting some mom time. I really don’t believe you transform.
Drew
: used to do something truly bad that I nevertheless believe terribly pertaining to, that will be that a person asked me aside, which had been while I was a student in school, and that I was not curious, I really was obvious about that, I became obvious I found myselfn’t interested. But she desired to be pals, and I could tell that she mentioned she wished to be buddies nonetheless it was from spot-
Christina
: She was wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless thing would be that all her buddies happened to be truly hot and cool, therefore I did stayed her pal in order to hang out along with her pals. I didn’t rest about my objectives normally, but it still wasn’t the best thing I did as a 20 yr old.
Christina
: i am talking about sadly it simply reminds me of these episode of
Intercourse together with City
in which Carrie’s dating, It’s my opinion it really is Justin Theroux, and he sucks, but his family stones, and she actually is like, I can repeat this for slightly. I’m like, yeah, positively, just who cannot.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t trying to get together with his family, the huge difference, however know very well what? It is great, we’re all great.
Christina
: A hookup will look like something, i am constantly stating that.
Drew
: that is a very great point.
Christina
: Your final any, is a three but features a coastline house.
Drew
: I’m going to say an annoying phrase, but we went to NYU.
Christina
: awful to state.
Drew
: something which sucks about me personally, which it is going to appear to be a modest brag, because it’s really most likely a fictional character trait, however it sucks as people going through the globe. We decided to go to a college that’s filled up with rich individuals who have all kinds of awesome coastline houses, and all these other stuff, and I also only became pals with others who had been indeed there on scholarships. Not merely, but mainly, we seriously, I didn’t it’s the perfect time with folks who’d coastline residences.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, I really believe if they are a three nonetheless they have a coastline house, they are probably a two. The simple fact⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you only cannot generate that jump to work well with the ill beach home time.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m truly hoping would be that my pals who are pretty down to earth, good folks, more of them are planning continue to have that brand-new cash and get beach homes, then I’ll be in a position to go out using my fantastic pals and become at a beach household. That is the fantasy where I could obtain the beach house.
Christina
: That’s the fantasy at the end of a single day, its new cash and a beach home, that is all we are shopping for. You heard it here initial individuals.
Drew
: i enjoy brand new money.
Christina
: Love brand new money.
Drew
: Love brand new money. Yeah, which was a delight. I’d actually, I’d truly been planning to perform that game because it ended up being anything on TikTok, thus thank-you in making my fantasies become a reality.
Christina
: I was thinking it would be a great someone to do, and it also had been really fun to generate all of them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to our major part associated with week, and that is slipping for those who reside in different metropolitan areas. That will be diverse from long distance relationships, because long-distance connections may start really into a commitment, they could continue on into a connection, this is basically the need that queer folks have to look at their unique place they live and go, no, I am not attending flirt with one of these individuals, i will embark on instagram.com and find a person who life very far. And then we have actually a, I know we constantly state a really unique visitor, but for myself this will be a rather unique visitor. Want to present yourself?
Elise
: I would want to introduce myself. Are we the special guest?
Drew
: You are, yes.
Christina
: kid, of course.
Elise
: Great, wow, amazing. I’m Elise Bauman, I’m a star, I’m a queer person, and I’m here today because I’m sleeping with among hosts.
Christina
: imagine what type?
Elise
: Yeah, all of those other podcast is simply the audience attempting decipher which variety i am asleep with. I love that, it really is like a murder secret but-
Christina
: there is method to know.
Elise
: there is no strategy to understand. Yeah, performs this create myself a nepotism infant? Is how the sector really works.
Christina
: Yes, which is how the business really works, girl.
Elise
: Nice, nice.
Christina
: that is it.
Elise
: Wow, maybe i really could get a lifetime career out of this.
Christina
: Fingers crossed individually.
Elise
: Nepo infant to career, wow, great. I’ve usually desired to end up being a nepo baby.
Christina
: i am therefore grateful.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself just browsing point out that for people who don’t know, well I am just ruining the murder secret of it all, but Elise and that I are in a connection, and did start relationship while in the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and I also live-in L. A., which have been in fact various towns, and tend to be actually in various countries.
Elise
: They are certainly, these are generally undoubtedly.
Christina
: And Drew, not to say that you moved against yours instinct, but i really do feel as if you will be frequently someone who claims, why bother with an extended range minute? You can find men and women here i will date, why do this to yourself? You are aware it’s going to be hard, you know it’s going to be a challenge, why do this? Yet here you’re.
Drew
: See, that is interesting, because I believe like i usually liked to own a little of both, i simply think I didn’t make long distance people perhaps because really.
Christina
: Maybe that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But I always liked an extended distance flirt.
Christina
: Genuine.
Drew
: And so I believe this only stored going. As soon as we began-
Elise
: and so the solution, Drew, was not that I was merely amazing and it also ended up being private to me, and this had been very particular to me that I was simply extremely enticing so you just out of cash all of your regulations and you also mentioned, “I have to have this 1.”
Drew
: What i’m saying is it really is sort of the answer in an extended good sense. In the sense this simply held happening. And our friends on the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, exactly who I familiar with live with, as some people may know, i might be like, I’d end up being wanting to date folks while in the pandemic in la and encompassing aspects of la. Then they would generate fun of myself because I would personally sometimes just be similar, “i am talking about, I could merely try to date Elise Bauman.” I became always, “What i’m saying is, {this person|this i
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